The Engineer’s Baby is nearly four months old (!) and we definitely feel like we are coming into our own as parents. This doesn’t mean we always get it right (far from it!), or that there won’t be times when we feel like we absolutely suck. But it does mean that we no longer feel like those new parents with no idea what to do with the little creature who has suddenly appeared in our lives. (Because despite the nine months of preparation time, and the years of trying before that, it really does feel sudden!) We have a little bit more confidence, the wee one is more robust and independent, life is just a little bit easier.
I think this recent confidence is the culprit behind my recent boredom. I no longer feel completely overwhelmed with the baby, and have a bit of space in my brain to do something else, for pretty much the first time since I found out I was pregnant just over a year ago. But I am pleased to report that thus far the writing is helping greatly, along with some lovely play dates and fun activities. This week was better than last, despite the fact that I spent two full days at home, one of those with a stinking cold…
This confidence might also be the reason I decided to invite a group of people over for a dinner to celebrate my birthday. A group of eight people, when we’ve never had more than two or three in the past. It was a decision made on a bit of a whim, and without much forward planning. So Saturday was pretty much committed to preparing for a dinner party. This wouldn’t have been too complicated if we were at home, with all of our home kitchen. But until Saturday, our Brunei kitchen didn’t even have knives to eat with (which was usually fine, but not ideal when serving a roast!), so it was a little bit more of a challenge. I always like a challenge though, and I really enjoyed myself.
In the end we had a slightly smaller group, and a slightly different dessert, than we had planned, but it was a lovely evening. The Engineer’s Baby even slept through the whole thing, after waking three times between going to bed and guests arriving. We were prepared for a night of distractions, but instead we could focus just on food and guests and fun.
It was a great way to celebrate the end of my third decade on the planet. And this weekend we are headed to Singapore to celebrate a bit more, and to give Baby Engineer the first of three aunty-meetings (the next one visits in early December, and the last one will be when we are at home for Christmas).
It’s been a busy time, and we have even more busy times ahead, so it’s pretty lucky that we have this surge of parenting confidence to carry us through!